Nathan shared a story about how one of his sons, Zach, had an opportunity to go to boarding school. Instead of leaving at 18, he was going to leave at 16 for boarding school.

God spoke to Nathan, “you need to let him know that he has what it takes”

What do my children [want, need, crave] from me?

This was the list our fathers came up with:

• You have what it takes
• Empowerment
• Encouragement
• Affection
• Love not based on performance
• 5 love languages (quality time, service, affection, gifts, words of affirmation)
• You have to know them to know what they need
• Consitancy/Routine/Expecations/Stability/Safety
• Direction/Coaching
• Teaching
• Correction
• Apologize/Repair
• See me struggle and overcome through adversity
• Pride
• Learn to use words
• Do hard things
• Celebrate Achievements
• Okay to Fail/Overcoming/Growth
• God is with you. Precense of God
• Time
• Honesty
• Responsive
• Prompting
• Believing the best
• Be Trusted.

“The key to being able to trust yourself is being trusted by others.”

Do you kids believe you trust them?

-Anonymous

Things that aren’t helpful:

• Being reactionary

What’s Required:

• Know intimately/individually
• Mentor through vision for life

See you next week and please sign up to bring coffee or donuts or to greet. Also email Chris if you would like to share in an upcoming week.