Building Godly Homes: Leadership, Protection, and Intentionality as Fathers

A summary of a Trinity Dad’s discussion with John Glenn, the third talk in the series.

Parenting is one of the greatest callings God gives to a man. As fathers, we are called to reflect the heart of our Heavenly Father in our homes, raising children in the discipline and instruction of the Lord (Ephesians 6:4). In a recent Trinity Dads Coffee discussion, we explored various aspects of fatherhood—from the importance of games and quality time to the weighty responsibility of protecting our children.

These conversations underscored one crucial truth: being a father requires intentionality. Whether we are guiding our kids in social interactions, shaping their spiritual lives, or protecting them from harmful influences, we must be actively engaged.

1. Protecting Our Children: “Privates Are Yours, No Secrets”

One sobering topic we discussed was the importance of teaching our children that their bodies belong to them and that no one—whether peer or adult—has a right to violate that. We must equip our kids with wisdom about inappropriate behavior while fostering an open environment where they feel safe to confide in us.

This extends beyond physical safety to emotional protection. We must teach our children that secrecy can be a tool of manipulation. A powerful reminder was shared: “Things that grow in secret gardens grow mutant.” When we encourage openness and transparency, we shield our kids from dangerous situations that thrive in secrecy.

🔹 Biblical Foundation:

“The prudent sees danger and hides himself, but the simple go on and suffer for it.” — Proverbs 22:3
“Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old, he will not depart from it.” — Proverbs 22:6

2. The Power of Games: Teaching Critical Thinking and Character

Many of us, myself included, aren’t naturally drawn to board games, but our kids thrive on them. Games provide more than just entertainment; they help our children develop resilience, learn to win and lose graciously, and sharpen strategic thinking. A dad shared how his daughter asked, “Dad, why do you always win? Can you teach me?” That moment of curiosity became an opportunity for coaching and character-building.

Games also serve as a social alternative. College-age kids, when equipped with enjoyable social activities, are less tempted to default to the party scene. Introducing them to strategic games, sports, or other hobbies can help them make wise choices in their social environments.

🔹 Biblical Foundation:

“Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men.” — Colossians 3:23
“A joyful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones.” — Proverbs 17:22

3. Christian Camps: Shaping Identity and Faith

Another powerful takeaway was the impact of Christian camps like Deerfoot and Pine Cove. These experiences create an environment where young men see strong, godly role models and grow in faith. One father shared how his son returned home from camp eager to chop firewood, evidence of the confidence and skills he had gained.

These camps serve as modern-day rites of passage, reinforcing godly character and maturity. Historically, young men had formal transitions into adulthood, marked by challenges that prepared them for responsibility. While our culture has largely abandoned this, Christian camps help reclaim the idea that biblical manhood requires growth, mentorship, and perseverance.

🔹 Biblical Foundation:

“Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another.” — Proverbs 27:17
“Blessed is the man who remains steadfast under trial, for when he has stood the test he will receive the crown of life.” — James 1:12

4. Serving Others: Volunteering as a Family

As fathers, we must model a life of service. One of the most transformative experiences for a child is seeing their parent engage in acts of love and kindness. Many of us have found that organizations like Durham Rescue Mission offer an accessible way to serve as a family.

One dad shared how his daughter, initially fearful of interacting with the homeless, quickly shifted to deep compassion. She saw past her discomfort and began arranging plates with dignity and care. These moments imprint valuable lessons on our children’s hearts—teaching them that the gospel is not just something we believe, but something we live.

🔹 Biblical Foundation:

“Whoever brings blessing will be enriched, and one who waters will himself be watered.” — Proverbs 11:25
“Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.” — Philippians 2:4

Action Steps for Fathers

If you’re looking for ways to become more intentional as a father, here are five actionable steps based on our discussion:

1️⃣ Teach Your Kids About Safety

Start early and talk to your kids about bodily autonomy and safe boundaries.
Reinforce that no adult should ever ask them to keep a secret from you.
Role-play potential situations to prepare them for real-life scenarios.

2️⃣ Make Games a Family Priority

Dedicate one night a week to a family game. Rotate board games to include strategy and cooperation-based play.
Use game time to teach valuable lessons about patience, strategy, and humility.
Encourage teens to develop game-based social skills to foster healthy interactions in college.

3️⃣ Plan for Christian Growth Experiences

Look into Christian camps that align with your values and offer mentorship opportunities.
Consider a father-son weekend or a spiritual retreat to intentionally invest in your child’s faith.
Encourage your kids to find faith-based role models beyond their immediate family.

4️⃣ Serve as a Family

Find local volunteer opportunities, such as food banks or homeless shelters, and make service a regular activity.
Talk to your children afterward about what they learned and how they saw God at work.
Lead by example—let them see you serving joyfully.

5️⃣ Be Proactive in Your Child’s Spiritual Formation

Lead family devotions and prayer times. Even a 10-minute daily habit can have a lasting impact.
Look for teachable moments in everyday life—whether through discipline, encouragement, or play.
Surround your children with Christian influences through church, youth groups, and faith-based activities.

Final Thoughts

Being a father is a sacred trust. We are not just raising kids; we are raising future disciples, leaders, and men and women of God. It’s easy to drift through fatherhood, reacting instead of leading. But our calling is clear: to intentionally shape our children’s faith, character, and worldview.

As we continue to meet and grow as Christian fathers, let’s commit to engaging fully, leading boldly, and loving sacrificially. The seeds we plant today will bear fruit for generations to come.

What’s Your Next Step?

Which of these action steps speaks most to you? How can you take one intentional step toward leading your family with greater purpose this week?

📖 “Be watchful, stand firm in the faith, act like men, be strong. Let all that you do be done in love.” — 1 Corinthians 16:13-14

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